Stephanie begins by establishing the first rule to learn about dating in Shanghai: Expat men are “spoiled by choice” by “a frenzy of dating as many local women as they possibly can with absolutely no commitment to any of them”.
This was mostly over the internet, and I have no doubt it's thanks to the shelter of relative anonymity that he felt free to act out.
If part of the problem is that Chinese women aren’t able to say “no”, the other half is that Chinese men aren’t able to ask the question.
Chinese dating is just as confusing, and wonderful, as any other type of dating.
In fact, I moonlight as a rather well-connected man-about-town in the expat community here (or rather, I was doing so earlier this year… Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone.
So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating.