That is EXACTLY the metaphor I use for private clients in describing the “tone” you want to capture in your initial contact.You’d never hit on a guy at a bar by walking up to him and telling him that he’s cute, he seems nice, and that you’d like to buy him a drink.If we wanted to read your profile, we'd have gone to it.An online dating message is not the same (thank GOD) as a job application.You went online because there's a huge pool of guys to date, and hooking one is supposed to be easy. According to Internet dating experts, many women are guilty of making these five mistakes online.So how come you're only meeting losers, or worse, not getting any attention at all? With a few tweaks and maybe a little white lie or two, your inbox will soon be stuffed with messages from guys dying to meet you.You may be on his Favorites list but he hasn’t had the opportunity to contact you yet.
Instead, as with good tip #5, use the message to ask about him/her.Mistake #1: You Don't Self-Promote You might be hesitant to really play up your assets because you worry it will make you seem cocky or self-involved.But leaving out interesting info, like how you're awesome at snowboarding or speak two languages, results in a lackluster first impression.So what do I do when I am not working on the next great American work of literature?Well, Rock climbing is one of my greatest thrills it gives me the feeling of working with nature to push myself beyond my limits.Plus, guys have learned to dismiss those generic descriptions since they've been on dates with women who describe themselves the same way but are total duds in person. So instead of writing that you're adventurous, make him really believe it by including a story about that time you took a spontaneous trip to the beach with girlfriends and swam with dolphins.